If It’s Not One Thing….It’s Your Mother……

Being a mother means that your heart is no longer yours;

it wanders wherever your children do.

~Author Unknown


Merry Meet my friends.  It’s a very quiet Saturn day here at my house today.  It’s been gloomy and pouring rain ..with on and off again thunder too. I actually love it, though it IS keeping me from planting my herbs I finally picked up this week.  I got all but 4 of the plants I was looking for. I will have to go to my other favorite garden center on Monday.  I am even trying some herbs I’ve never grown before like fennel and lemon verbena 🙂 Can’t wait to dig in the dirt!




Here in Ohio, Mother’s Day is usually the first weekend that we are most likely safe from late frosts and that has definitely been the case this year.  Our Winter was long but Spring has arrived.  This rain is helping everything to look so green and lush.  Late blooming trees and flowering bushes like Lilacs and Forsythia and Rose of Sharon are all starting to bloom.  It’s really lovely.

Speaking of Mother’s Day, it’s tomorrow in case you weren’t aware. 🙂  Last night I attended a Mom’s Day banquet at my Mother’s church with my daughters, my sisters and of course my Mom.  My little granddaughter was supposed to go as well but she is under the weather with a stomach bug …poor kid.  Now a Witch in church..well it’s not the first time that’s happened I’m quite sure LOL.  However, my Mother..well …let’s just say that she has never been an easy woman to have as a Mother.  And no matter how old I get, or she gets,  it hasn’t changed.   So it was a bit stressful at times, but in the long run.  I’m glad we all went to make her happy.


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I know that Mother’s Day can be a very loving, wonderful, happy day for many of us.  It has been for me as a Mom and Nana, in my adult years.  I am blessed with wonderful daughters who love me and show it,  and my grandchildren are nothing but pure joy to me.  But on the other end of the spectrum, there are those who aren’t moms, or have lost their moms, or don’t get along with their moms, that make the day either difficult at best, and terribly sad at worst.  My heart always goes out to my friends who have lost a loving Mother.  I think that for some, losing your mom is something you never get over.  I send you all big hugs if that is your situation..I truly am sorry for your loss.

On this Mom’s Day, I’d like EVERY woman..whether a mother or not….to do something for herself..to bring joy to YOU.  My friends who don’t have children…well, they are Mom’s too.  Women are natural nurturers.  Whether they care for aged parents, a loving partner, pets, their homes and gardens, charities, friends, nieces and nephews, etc etc….you should celebrate this day.  Frankly, Mom’s day should be everyday.  Women need to learn to nurture themselves MORE! The lessons we learn from taking some time to ourselves on Mom’s Day..should be done every day!  After all, as the adage goes, you can’t care for others until you care for yourself.  I think this is a very hard lesson to learn as a woman, we tend to put ourselves last.  As I get older though, I realize how important it is to put ourselves higher on our list of things to do.  We must nurture the Goddess within us.

I’d also like us to think on Mother’s Day..about the Mother of us all…Mother Earth.  I always give thanks on this day (and every day really) for Our Mother…who nourishes us 24/7 with Earth, Air, and Water.  With beauty in Her nature if we take the time to look and feel and listen and touch.  Make an offering for Her and show some gratitude for all She does to sustain us.



Picture from Café Press


For those like me, who have a  relationship with our Moms that isn’t always as we would like it to be.  Well…just remember, if it’s not one thing….It’s your Mother 🙂  Do the best you can to honor her as your mom.  When she’s no longer with you…you’ll be glad you did.

I wish all the Women out there a very Happy Sun day and Mom’s day.  Hope you’re loved ones treat you like the Goddess you ARE!!

On a personal note, I wish my beautiful daughter Kate a very Happy Mother’s Day.  Watching you with your own children, makes my heart swell with pride and joy.  I love you.


There is an instinct in a woman to love most her own child — and an instinct to make ANY child who needs her love, her own.

~Robert Brault, rbrault.blogspot.com


Blessings and Love, Autumn Earthsong





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14 responses to “If It’s Not One Thing….It’s Your Mother……

  1. Deb

    Happy Mother’s Day to you Kim! You my dear are and awesome mom and grandmom; a wonderful sister and friend; mentor; etc etc etc! I hope you can dig in the dirt tomorrow and give back love to our Mother! Sweet love to you my blessed sister! Love you!

  2. Happy Mother’s Day to you my dearest sister!

  3. Jennifer

    Happy Mother’s Day Autumn! A great message for sure. You are so right, you never forget your mom when she is gone, it does get a little easier…well, until you want to call her with good news or you are upset, just always remember for those that are like me who has lost their mother, you can still talk to her and know she is around.
    Happy Mothers Day Awesome MOMS everywhere!
    What an awesome read to start my day, thank you Sis!

    Much love and Hugs!!!!

    • thank you so much dear Jenn. Wise words indeed. I know your Mom is with you as you love her so much and keep her with you always. Have a Blessed Mom’s Day and much love to you!!! Autumn

  4. Beautifully written, thanks for sharing!
    -Sarah from Little Cloud of Sanity ❤
    ps. Happy Mom's Day!!!!!!!!!!!

  5. Kim Kica

    Well said Autumn you covered it all!

  6. chefette13

    Happy Mother’s day !! The quote you ended your post with is so true. I have one son and I am blessed to have him in my life. But I have always had the need to have more children maybe that’s why I work at a university?? I’m surrounded by kids!! I always felt that Mother’s day was a day to honor any woman who is special in your life. My mother passed away 28 years ago but I have since then taken to sending my elderly aunts mother’s day cards. I receive “Sister who is like a mother to me” cards from my brothers and Mothers day cards from kids I work with. Your piece today really hit home that I am really blessed with a lot of “kids” in my life after all. 🙂 I hope you had a super day with your daughter and grandchildren!!

    • Hi June….It sounds like you’re very blessed indeed with extended family and “children” in your Life. That is exactly the point I was trying to make. I have had and do have women in my life who are chosen sisters, daughters and mothers as well. I’m glad my post hit home with you and hope you had a wonderful Mom’s Day! Hugs and love, Autumn

  7. It was a very sad day for me, I lost my best friend and Crone. My Mother in 2010. She had me when she was 40. I was 37 at the TOD. I focused on her memory instead of the sadness. She was from West Virginia and the 3rd eldest of 13 children. She was a tough old hen and always reminded me of such. My father passed when I was 15. He was Athiest. My mom never underestimated that I saw fairies. She taught me how to respect and offer to them. I asked her one night. “Mom?, how come you never baptized me like you did sis and bro?” She stared at me and produced such a big smile and in her West Virginia accent she says “Well Hunni, it’s coz She’s gonna call you home.” I was satisfied with that and snuggled her. She always said things and they always came true, or she would point and make things happen. She taught me about “Fixin” things and yes. She made moonshine in her extra bathtub. She fed me herbs when I got sick. I never understood why other kids moms didn’t do the same. She taught me about the dead and how not to be afraid.
    I ramble. But it is because my mom is the brightest star in my universe. She will always shine.

    • I’m so sorry for your loss makiamberbear and I’m touched you told me your story. Your mother sounds like she was a very wonderful person and a beautiful mom who taught you to be different..to be yourself. What a great lesson to learn. I know you’ll miss her always. Many blessings to you my friend….hugs….

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